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Children learn to respond to situations better when their emotional intelligence is developed. The first step is to develop self awareness and awareness of emotions in others and Esha has demonstrated that very well in this case. Here is a short case study of transformative learning from our Afterschool Program on how a child who developed Emotional Intelligence transferred her learning to the home environment. #sparklingmindzglobalschool #inspiringconfidentlearners #youngachieversacademy #21stcenturylearning #socialemotionallearning #emotionalawareness #emotionalintelligent #afterschoolprogram #learningforkeeps On a gloomy Monday afternoon, the facilitators at SM were busy preparing for their classes next day when T (a 5 year old pre-schooler) walked in and sat on a facilitator's chair.
F: Do you want to be a facilitator? T: I want to be a scientist! F: What does it mean to be a scientist? T: (now in thoughts and guestured to not know) What does a scientist even do? F: But you wanted to be one? T: Maybe I want to be a doctor or a librarian. I have not decided yet, when I become fifteen I'll get to choose. (Something strikes her and she continues) Ah! I know! I want to explore space, I want to learn about the universe, I wish to be the first kid on space. Hmmm... What's a space ship driver called? F: You mean an astronaut? T: Yes! I want to be an astronaut. T: (still thinking) Maybe I want to be a writer! F: What would you write then? T: When somebody goes missing, I 'll write missing on a paper and put it up so that they can find them. T: (continued with her eyes sparkling as bright as the sun compensating for the gloom outside) maybe I'll write stories! T: Hmmm... Maybe I'll be a zookeeper, I love animals specially dinosaurs. F: Do we have dinosaurs in the zoos now? T: No, they died 15 million years ago, but I'll draw them... I'll become a zookeeper! T: (seeming confused) they are all so cool, I'm unable to decide! By then, her Mom arrived to pick her and she leaves. as she left, she screamed out loud from the door, "Ma'am! I want to be a tooth fairy" If we can sustain this unique and imaginative thinking through their schooling years we would have succeeded in creating individuals that will carve their own unique paths and become changemakers in their own right! #reggioemiliainspiredlearning #sparklingmindzglobalpreschool #inspiringconfidentlearners Contributed by Yashika CG, Learning Facilitator at Sparkling Mindz Global Preschool. T is visibly upset, screaming and crying, sitting on her pink mat, "I want H to sit next to me not Ash!!!!!!!" Now both the classes, Cubs (4 - 5 y/o) and Joeys (5 - 6 y/o) were staring at the scene, wondering what was happening. T was then reminded to use her words and that we couldn't help her if we didn't understand why she was so upset. After a few seconds, when nothing seemed to help her calm down, the facilitator (F) stepped in, "Can T please come with me? Let's go to our calming corner." This was done so that her emotions could be addressed with her calmly and to help her calm herself. T and the F then came to their class (Cubs' class) for further discussion, F: What happened? T, still crying, at this point her words are not clear, murmurs something. F: You know I can't understand what you are trying to tell me. T, calms down and starts to talk after a few seconds: I wanted Ash to sit here (pointing to her left) and H there (pointing to her right). I didn't want Ash to sit here (pointing to her right). F: So what can you do about it? T (now angry): I told her so many times. She didn't listen! F: Okay, I hear you. T: NOOOOOOOO!!! (screaming and crying slightly) She made me upset. F: You're saying that she made you feel upset and cry? T: Yes. F: What can T do about this now? T, now calm: I can take a deep breath and go sit somewhere where there is space. I can make new friends also. I was upset because she made me. F: Hmm, so you are saying that somebody else has the power to upset you and make you cry? T agrees. F: So you have given the power to make you feel angry or any other emotions, to people outside of you? T: Yes. Only others can make me feel bad and happy. F: Interesting. So that's what you're choosing to tell yourself ? T, now pondering, but also agreeing. F: Okay. Let's think about it this way, what does this power of yours look like? T: Like a mossy rock! F: Awesome! And? T: Yellow, bright like that sun (points at the ceiling, to show the sun in the sky). Oh, I don't need that sun, I can make a sun for myself! F: WOW! And where is this power? T points into the middle of her chest. F: In your chest? Wow. So when you give your power away to others, when others have the power to upset you or make you happy, where does this bright mossy sun go? T, thinking. No response. F continues, "Next time you feel like others have upset you, can you look for that power within you and see where it is?" T: Yes. F: And if you that power is missing, what can you do? T: Put it back in my chest! And I'll be powerful and bright like the sun! (does a little dance) F: Awesome! Would you like to think about this and come back after a bit, so we can talk more about it? T: Mm-hmm. And off she went hopping and skipping with the power of mossy sun within her! Who knows what hidden powers we carry when we don't stop to introspect or too easily hand over all our power to others to hurt, to anger us. What if, we chose to take back that power and work with it instead? What would your power look like? Have you wondered? And off she went back to the class, happy as ever. Holding space for children to express their emotions give them the understanding that it's okay to feel what they are feeling without feeling judged. In this space, they feel safe to be themselves, and to be open to express and explore different parts of them. Now when T starts to get triggered, she can simply be reminded of the sun to shift it back to within herself and she's good to go. And that's all it takes, to emerge out as an empowered person, to realize and remember that we have the power within us to do whatever it is that we want to, that it is nobody but us who are responsible for our own lives. #sparklingmindzglobalschool #sparklingmindzglobalpreschool #socialemotionallearning #youngachieversacademy #inspiringconfidentlearners #everychildcan #21stcenturylearning #powerwithinme Contributed by Sruthy Krishna, Learning Facilitator at Sparkling Mindz Global Preschool Sparkling Mindz makes you do things beyond your comfort zone; gently nudging and pushing you to grow. This one (as you must have guessed from the article) is about HOW I RAN A 12K MARATHON! Actually, how all of us at school ran a 12k Marathon?
Yes, we do run a marathon every year and this year on Oct 2nd, 2019 we all ran a solid 12 kilometers! While at any other place a marathon maybe about running and winning. Not at Sparkling Mindz. Here, it stands for everything that we as Sparkling Mindzians stand for - 1. Beating my best - it was not about comparing with anyone else but bettering our own timing 2. Being one with oneself - spending an hour+ running by yourself can bring out a lot of voices in your head - some that are cheerleaders and others that can be very discouraging 3. Finding my rhythm - running is all about discovering the rhythm in your breath, body and mind and each can find a different one Something interesting happened on one of our last day of practice,. You must be wondering why bring up a practice session? Well, it was the day where we would run three rounds of around 4K each on site testing whether we could really do 12Kms or not! The moment of truth was here. As soon as we began stretching you could already see the different thoughts running through people's minds, "Yay! We are doing 3 rounds today!", "Can I really run 3 rounds.... [sighs]", "Oh my, I am so excited! I am sure I can do it", and more. All of us having different thoughts, all of them that affected our run. Thoughts affected run? Yes! Let's explore what I meant through this. We began our run and the facilitator screamed a heavy ‘Ready.......Steady.......Go..!’ and all of us ran with our hands moving front and back, our lungs filling with air, our legs drifting across the surface and thoughts running across our minds. All that were there in front of us was the pitch black road with trees on either sides, rocks laying here and there and wind passing by. In the first stretch some of us stopped and some took time off, all based on what we chose to tell ourselves. We all finished the first round like we were flying through air and when the second round began, things started to get different. Few had pulled themselves up, some had fallen behind, some were determined, some were just talking and others were just walking. All telling themselves different things - ‘I can do this I will finish .’, ‘What! Where is my friend I can’t run like this.’ and ‘[sighs]...I am so tired I am not sure if I can do this’. Throughout the second round there were distractions, motivations, goals and narratives all of them new and some, different. Well, all of us managed through the second round. You ever hear the words ‘strong determination’? Well now we witnessed it because in the third round, narratives shifted and patterns changed. Everyone who committed to the third round began and this round started off like a bird taking off with its wings wide open. All of us told ourselves, "We could do it!" All of us with a productive mindset. This round was as fast as the wind and everyone by now was very eager to finish this run and achieve their goals. The run ended and everyone was stretching- when we closed our eyes and took a deep breath, we could feel this energy inside of us, something that drove us for the rest of our day. It was a source of power within us. Why is this so important? Well, because that day the amount of improvement all of us showed was huge, how some of us learnt to shift states and narratives was an achievement. That day was the day when we all gave it our best, the best that we could give then. What’s next? Well, we are from Sparkling Mindz...so we want to constantly do more and do better, and so we will! We will continue our practices diligently and continue growing and learning. This is just one of our milestones in the many coming ahead. Contributed by Meenakshi Tanikella, Falcons (Grade 8), Sparkling Mindz Global School. Edited by Sreeja Iyer, CEO & Founder Sparkling Mindz. The 4 year olds were making a circle with all of the colourful chairs around them for their usual Monday circle time. They had just gotten back from a 3 days long holiday and had lots to share! The circle was almost complete when Paridhi was just standing in the middle of the almost circle with an upset face, refusing to talk to anybody.
"What happened Pari?", asked the facilitator (F). Paridhi, with more tears," I want Elsa's chair!" At this point, as the F seemed confused, children explained that the blue chair is Elsa's chair and the others are Aana's chairs. At this time there were no more blue chairs as children had all already occupied all of the rest, except for a green chair. F continued," Why don't you take another chair and sit? Because there's no more blue chair." Pari,"But that's Aana's chairs. I want to be Elsa!" and continues being upset. F noticed Tanmayi was sitting on a yellow chair and pointed at Tanmayi ,"See Tanmayi is sitting on a yellow one!", To which Tanmayi replied," I am sitting on yellow one because it is a bright colour chair. It is sun fairies,moon fairies, anything you want to be!" F,"Oh wow! Did you hear that Pari? You can be aaaaaanything you want to be! What would you like to be other than Elsa?" She thought for a few seconds and shouted with excitement," Butterfly!" F,"Awesome! And which chair would you like to sit on?" She pointed at the only available green chair and happily sat on it, and the problem was resolved. With the right prompts, children can figure out solutions for themselves. It's important to understand the care-abouts of children in every situation as it helps to resolve issues at a deeper level, leaving everybody calmer and happier. Contributed by Sruthy Krishna, Sparkling Mindz Global Preschool. What would you do if you ever felt like you weren't part of a group, that you had no friends, that you felt like nobody liked you? How would you feel? Moreover, how do you think a child feels when she feels like she has no friends, that she isall alone, that nobody likes her? Our 4 year old K had been finding it difficult to connect and be friends with her classmates, feeling alone and sad but not sure how to solve it by herself; neither did she have clarity on why and what she was feeling. The time came then for our 4 year olds to get a new set of library books to take and read at home. Out of those books, was one tiny treasure called 'Something Else' by Kathryn Cave and Chris Riddell. The book is about a little creature the other animals call 'Something Else' because it doesn't look like the others. The storyline moves through the emotions faced by the creature when it felt alone, sad, lonely because of how others treated it and called it 'Something Else'. The book however ends on a happy note where another creature that looks like none other comes into the picture and they become the best of friends. Call it luck, call it a connection, K found it and took it home for the week. Days pass by, the book made its rounds with the others without any of us realizing how deep a connection K had made with the creature in the book called 'Something Else', until it was brought to our attention by her mother. K had been feeling like she was Something Else in the class as she felt alone, lonely and sad. Reading that book gave her the vocabulary and understanding of her emotions and feelings that she connected to, resulting in her opening up about it to her parents. When it was brought to the attention of the school, we decided to dive right in, as we always do. With her in particular, we have been working on communication skills, and as a class, social skills and making friends with new children were on the focus. Because of the initial layer of work that was already done, when K's emotions were brought in the picture, children found it easier to empathize and suggest solutions. We read the book today, it being a Thursday where we usually read a book for our Library Routine. We chose 'Something Else' to read and everybody was excited and jumping on their mats, except for K. She looked quiet and withdrawn throughout. However, we proceeded. Children kept empathizing with the character and vocalizing about the scenes in the book. Post the reading session, the floor was open for questions and further discussions. "Have you ever felt like how 'Something Else' was feeling? " Nobody answered as such. The question then was repeated to K to which she whispered a yes. She then came and stood with us in the front for the issue to be discussed further. We held her throughout to let her know that she was safe in our circle. "Because I am alone like Something Else. Nobody is not playing with me." meaning to say that nobody played with her. The whole class of the 4-year olds sat quiet and looked concerned as she spoke as they now knew exactly how she felt. "We will be friends with you. " "We will play with you." "I will write a letter for you at my home. I will bring it for you. You can take it home." "I will play with you K"... And on and on went children, soothing her heart. There was no need of further conversations and this culminated in a a gentle group hug where they just held her. And T planted her a kiss in the end. Developing a vocabulary to express how they are feeling is a good first step to seeking help when someone is feeling left out, lonely or upset. Children, when not felt supported and loved, can develop all kinds of insecurities right from childhood that could take a long time to move out of. As important as it is to make them feel loved, supported and belonged, it's also important equip them to love, support and be there for one another.
Contributed by Sruthy Krishna, Learning Facilitator at Sparkling Mindz Global Preschool. It was take home issue time for Cubs (4 to 5 year olds) today, just before they went home for the weekend. Children were all busy packing their take home files into their bags when Tanmayi was visibly upset. With teary eyes she said, "Nobody is being my friend." And started crying slightly. "Who do you mean by everybody?" Tanmayi, pointing at Ashley, continues to tear up. "I am sure you can solve this. Why don't you go talk to her and ask her- Ashley, are you not my friend?" She was prompted here as she was not in an emotional space to come up with questions. She seemed really upset. Usually she takes care of such situations herself. Tanmayi walked over to Ashley and asked gently, "Ashley, are you my friend or not?", hoping for a yes. When Tanmayi got no response from Ashley's side, she looked even more helpless, without realizing that Ashley might not have heard her voice as she was speaking very softly. Tanmayi kept standing next to Ashley, looking at me as if asking for help. "Ashley, I think Tanmayi is trying to communicate something with you." Upon hearing this, Ashley suddenly noticed Tanmayi standing in front of her, "Oh!" "Ashley, are you my friend or not?", repeated Tanmayi with a calmer demeanor. "Yes I am! But why did you twist my hand?", asked Ashley. Tanmayi and Ashley were playing a while before this and they got into a mini fight. That's when Ashley told Tanmayi that she will no longer be her friend, which triggered Tanmayi. "Because I wanted to play Catch Catch with you!", clarified Tanmayi, sounding apologetic. "Okay! Let's play something else!", replied Ashley. Upon hearing this, Tanmayi had the most widest smile, and a completely calm demeanor. Her tears had disappeared completely! Ashley looked resolved too as she now understood why Tanmayi did what she did when they were playing. What might look like a small situation to adults could create a major emotional situation for children who are going through it. Tanmayi wasn't able to move on and process other things around until this situation was resolved for her. And it wasn't resolved for Ashley either until they talked it through. Children can carry such emotions with them for a long time and it is absolutely necessary for them to learn conflict resolution. As adults who work with children, be it parents, teachers, and the like, it is imperative that they are shown conflict resolution methods. Though it could take some time initially for them to grasp the concept, nurturing these skills are a must from an early age. Contributed by Sruthy Krishna, Learning Facilitator at Sparkling Mindz Global Preschool. At SM, the facilitators have something called an Inspirational Standup (ISU) every morning right before the classes commence. The purpose is to get inspired for the day, perhaps, even for life, and to find deeper connections and purposes in what we do. ISU usually includes reading a write up, watching a video, listening to a poem, playing a game, learning a new dance as a team, and such. The possibilities are endless when it comes to creating a new ISU.
As we sat today in the front space of the school thinking about what we could do for the day's ISU, we agreed to observe the three children who were playing in the mirror cave, completely engaged in their little game, and ponder on the emotions they could be feeling. We agreed on 5 minutes to observe, then discuss after. The purpose for this exercise was to make stepping into the shoes of another and empathize deeper, consciously. We chose this exercise today as we had sat for a training session yesterday and discussed on the importance of empathizing with another to solve problems deeper and create more awareness within ourselves about another person's thought patterns. So what better way to practice what we preach at SM about depth, vulnerability, connectedness...than to take perspectives?! As the minutes progressed, we stopped after what seemed like 2 minutes to share our experiences. What came out was deeper than what we planned for! Facilitator 1: I saw them experiencing curiosity, happiness, calmness, joy, sense of trust, sense of brotherhood and a family bonding, feeling at home, love. Facilitator 2 and 3 were smiling ear to ear at this point, realizing almost all of their observations were covered too. Facilitator 2 added, "Yes! I also noticed awkwardness from Ved when he noticed that we were watching them." The discussion went on for another minute or so, adding more layers to what we thought they were experiencing during those moments when were observing them. This is when we realized that a simple exercise like this added so much more value to our day as we consciously stepped in and out of children's shoes to understand how they felt and what we could do to help them move forward. Not just children, even stepping in other people's shoes help us move forward from stuck moments that involve them. We also realized how we don't need to search far and wide for inspiration; it's just around the corner! All it takes is to be mindful for a minute and look around with an open and non- judgemental mind. And the world is all ours to grab! Contributed by Sruthy Krishna, Learning Facilitator at Sparkling Mindz Global Preschool. Today a child came crying to school. It is not a usual sight at our school so naturally all the children stared at her and didn't know what to do - the loudness, the distraction, the helplessness...it was all evident in each of their faces. Once she settled, they all came around for their Welcome Song. As the facilitator was calling her to the group, everybody was staring at her wondering what she was going to say. Eventually, she told everybody that she doesn't want to join in, she wants to stand alone. Children understood that but instead of ignoring her...they did something magical. One by one, all of them started to walk towards her and gave her a hug, which culminated in a group her. They stood with her until the facilitator asked all of them to come back. They held her gently unlike their usual group hugs that are very driven, loud and fast. She was brought in with love and gentle affection. She was moved, she joined in.
Children know when to be gentle and kind to one another and it's a very important quality to have and to build within. For this class, we have been working on awareness and connection to emotions, expressing and understanding them in each other as well as being friends with all your classmates. Hence, the sensitivity that children showed - no one laughed, no one ignored, they were all very gentle. Then, the collective synergistic action they took together to bring her in - again with no verbal exchange between each other. All of it shows that something magical is happening in the class of my 3 year olds. As parents, teachers, neighbors, friends, and anybody, let's help cultivate kindness and empathy among children, so that they nourish both themselves and others around them. But first, let's cultivate the same within us so that we can show them how to build it within themselves, and emerge stronger than they already are. Contributed by Sruthy Krishna, Learning Facilitator at Sparkling Mindz Global Preschool. Reviewed by Sreeja Iyer, CEO, Sparkling Mindz Global A bright sunny morning, our 5-6 year olds were at the playground. They were divided into two teams to play a game of Dodge Ball. The rules were set and the teams were rearing to go. An had the ball in her hand as it was decided that she would start the game but Av wanted to be the one to start the game. He was trying to forcefully pull the ball away from An's hands. ![]() Av: I want to throw the ball first An: No! I want to start the game, Av. Ma’am said that I can start and R and D in our team have also agreed. R only came and gave me the ball. Av: No, this time I want to start the game. Av, as if remembering that politeness can go miles, immediately changes his stance. Av (politely): An, can I please have the ball? An would have usually given in to requests like these just to avoid a fight is quite assertive this time She is in no mood to part with the ball just because someone else is asking. It is rightfully hers! An (softly but firmly): No, Av, I want to have the ball this time. You can have it the next time, we play the game. Seeing that his repeated requests are not working Av starts to cry. Soon the other children gather around. Some try to coax An while others try to convince Av, as they are keen on getting back to the fun of playing the game. D (walking up to An, trying to negotiate): An, see how Av is crying. Let him have the ball. Av, now has an even more sad expression, looking for more supporters. Few of the children agree saying Av should have the ball. Av: Yes, An look how I am crying. Let me have the ball. An is still not convinced. D: Crying children only should have the ball. An, give the ball to Av. Then turning to me, he says, D: Ma’am, crying children should have the ball. Please tell An to give the ball. Me: Okay, so every time a child cries, and we give the child what he wants, what will the child learn? Na: He will think, if I cry, I will get it Me: Exactly, so is that a good solution? Most of them disagree. Me: Then D, if we now give the ball to Av because he is crying, are we helping Av? D: No, ma’am. This idea is dropped and they start looking for other ways to solve the problem. Av now decides to wipe away his tears realizing that this is not working. ![]() Meanwhile, C now resorts to another way of trying to solve the problem - seeking the help of the Almighty! I notice that he has retreated to a quiet place away from the group and is standing there with folding hands, looking up to the sky. Me: C, what are you doing? C: Ma’am, I am praying. Me: What are you praying for? C: Asking God to solve this problem! Now the children have separated into two groups, one group working on convincing Av and the other group on convincing An. In Av’s group, D comes up with a proposal. D: Ok, Av, you do one thing. When we go back to the class, you hold the ball. Av suddenly brightens up and agrees. Now this group walks up to the other, to see if An would agree to this proposal. D: An, you can start the game now. When we go back to class, Av will hold the ball. Okay? An: I’m okay with that With Av and An agreeing to D’s proposal, finally the problem was resolved and the game resumed. In the process, all of them had flexed their conflict resolution muscle and gained confidence that they can figure out solutions to problems no matter how unsolvable and unreasonable they may sound to begin with. As we step back and reflect on the incident, we realize that there are several things that children did right 1. They didn't give up in the face of repeat set backs to solve the problem 2. They came up with newer solutions from different dimensions, it was never more of the same 3. They didn't write off or judge either of their friends 4. They didn't take sides 5. They resolved the issue as a class, as a team 6. Despite emotions running high, they kept an ear open for a suggestion that would work 7. They understood that, perhaps, the dispute was just about who got to hold the ball, not about who started the game, that led to their creative solution (showing sprouts of empathy here!) 8. At no point, did they ask the facilitator to solve the problem for them, they persevered, they trusted themselves enough to continue working on it 9. The facilitator stepped back and only stepped in when there was a pull from the children (only to the extent necessary) Children who experience trust in their capabilities from adults around them and learn to take ownership of their relationships, learning and more become confident problem solvers. They are an inspiration to each one of us, as children should be! We wonder what inspirational lessons we will learn from our 5 year olds next? Documented by Jennifer Christy, Learning Facilitator at Sparkling Mindz Global Preschool Edited by Sreeja Iyer CEO Sparkling Mindz Global |
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